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Hi everyone!
I miss blogging. A lot of things happened to me lately and I’m still on the verge of adjusting to the changes. Let me share them. A friend breaks her silence for being in a hell of a relationship with his husband, and decided to call it quits. Another friend, break up with his boyfriend after finding out that his married. And it may sound really weird if I say another friend break up with his fiancé after being in love in a complete stranger. Since, I’m a friend; I became the emotional sponge for all of them.
I can’t turn my back on them, and sometimes it’s good to know that they need you in times like this, I may not be an expert, but I love giving advices to my friends. It feels like you are free to scold them and tell them everything you want to say whether it’ll break their hearts into a million pieces. However, I can’t help myself from being so emotional especially if they’ve become a part of your life.
Anyhoo, I don’t want to go into details, rather, I want to take this opportunity to share what I think the most essential tips in breaking up with a guy. I received this way back from a friend who wanted to open my eyes about guys. I’m glad, I finally moved on, happy with the one and only man in my life…my son!
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If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can’t "be friends."
A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.
All men are not dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage.
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists
of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re
always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
I ALWAYS SAY THIS, Heart is the most resilient thing, and it can be broken up into so many pieces and in time put itself back together. And we are human just like man!
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.
PS. I wanted to add this song. :P
See my days are cold without you (without you)
But I'm hurtin while im with you (with you)
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
See my days are cold without you(without you)
But I'm hurtin while im with you (with you)
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
Baby I don't know why ya treatin me so bad
You said you love me, no one above me(above me)
And I was all you had
And though my heart is beating for ya
I can't stop crying (crying)
I don't know how
I allow you to treat me this way and still i stay (stay)
See my days are cold without you (my days awww)
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more (no more no more)
I keep on running back to you
See my days are cold without you
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
Baby I don't know why ya wanna do me wrong
See when I'm home, I'm all alone (alone)
And you are always gone
And boy, you know I really love you (love you)
I can't deny
I can't see how you bring me to so many tears after all these years
See my days are cold without you
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
See my days are cold without you
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
Oohhhhh
I trusted you, I trusted you
So sad, so sad
what love will make you do
all the things that we accept
be the things that we regret
too all of my ladies (ladies) feel me
c'mon sing wit me
See, when I get the strength to leave
You always tell me that you need me
And I'm weak cause I believe you
And I'm mad because I love you
So I stop and think that maybe
You can learn to appreciate me
Then it all remains the same that
You ain't never gonna change
(never gonna change, never gonna change)
See my days are cold without you
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
See my days are cold without you
But im hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
Baby why you hurt me leave me and desert me
Boy I gave you all my heart
And all you do is tear it up
Looking out my window
Knowing that I should go
Even when I pack my bags
This something always hold me back
But I'm hurtin while im with you (with you)
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
See my days are cold without you(without you)
But I'm hurtin while im with you (with you)
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
Baby I don't know why ya treatin me so bad
You said you love me, no one above me(above me)
And I was all you had
And though my heart is beating for ya
I can't stop crying (crying)
I don't know how
I allow you to treat me this way and still i stay (stay)
See my days are cold without you (my days awww)
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more (no more no more)
I keep on running back to you
See my days are cold without you
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
Baby I don't know why ya wanna do me wrong
See when I'm home, I'm all alone (alone)
And you are always gone
And boy, you know I really love you (love you)
I can't deny
I can't see how you bring me to so many tears after all these years
See my days are cold without you
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
See my days are cold without you
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
Oohhhhh
I trusted you, I trusted you
So sad, so sad
what love will make you do
all the things that we accept
be the things that we regret
too all of my ladies (ladies) feel me
c'mon sing wit me
See, when I get the strength to leave
You always tell me that you need me
And I'm weak cause I believe you
And I'm mad because I love you
So I stop and think that maybe
You can learn to appreciate me
Then it all remains the same that
You ain't never gonna change
(never gonna change, never gonna change)
See my days are cold without you
But I'm hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
See my days are cold without you
But im hurtin while im with you
And though my heart can't take no more
I keep on running back to you
Baby why you hurt me leave me and desert me
Boy I gave you all my heart
And all you do is tear it up
Looking out my window
Knowing that I should go
Even when I pack my bags
This something always hold me back
